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You've lived with yourself long enough. It's time to make a commitment.

Marry Yourself.

Wear anything you want. It's your wedding. No bride, groom, nor in-laws required.

It's just you.

Of course that's daunting, so I'm here to help you.

" 'TIL DEATH DO YOU PART - Marry Yourself!" is a one-on-one live art performance between YOU (aka The Participant) and the Artist (aka The Encouraging Priestess). You will marry yourself in this quickie, Lost-Vegas send up of a western marriage ceremony. No need for in-laws, no bride nor groom, nor anything else. We provide an Encouraging Priestess, some costuming, refreshments, toy rings and multiple-choice vows. Non denominational. You may bring your own rings and vows, as we are happy to accommodate you as deep as you're willing to go. Wear whatever makes you happy - costumes encouraged. It's your ceremony. All you need is your soul.

I will have ritual items on hand - costume pieces, funky rings, flowers, candles, incense, music - like Vegas but cheaper.

And of course, I have a multiple-choice list of vows. You can come fully prepared with all your own gear or choose from our campy selection. It's all in fun but it's deep too. It's up to you! You can be of any age and repeat the ritual as many times as you like (in any form) for the rest of your life. It's all you, baby. I'm just here to get you going. No in-laws required.

Some things to think about...

Are you ready to marry yourself?

WHO?
YOU! ... JUST YOU.
Two people marrying each other is often a marriage of families, regardless of economic background. When you marry yourself, it's just between you and you. Your left and right brain. However you split it up, you don't have to tell anyone. You can invite friends and family to your sacred ritual, but since you are both bride and groom, you don't have to worry about politics. You can, if you like, create a wishlist or registry if you need some Calphalon pans or a bread machine after your nuptials. At least your friends know who will keep their gift if you break up. And I'm here to tell you that you really have no choice but to work through the hard times. Your vows will be etched in your soul until death do you part.

HIGHS AND LOWS
What you will encounter is your own depths and your own glass ceilings. You might encounter old bugaboos like the age-old question, "Would you marry you, knowing what you do?" This is where it gets interesting and is reflected in your vows.

THE POWER IS YOURS
Some people are living a life that is fully committed to the kind of happiness that inherently breeds solid relationships with other people. This is different than simply being committed to other people. You can do that too, but only after you've gotten serious about who you are, what you want, and what you are convinced you deserve. This is the work after the ceremony. If monogamy makes you feel that you are missing out on life, then you are coming from a place of lack. When you are whole, then anybody else you connect with is a partner on your journey, an enhancement to your life. The self-wedding ceremony is meant to spur you forth into this journey.

YOU WILL CHANGE AND THAT'S OKAY
Your choices about what is acceptable, perfect or joyous may change, but the point is to give it all some thought. You're not an oarless boat unless you want to be. Apathy is also a choice.

ALLURE
Married people are confident and alluring to others. Marrying yourself is about making considered choices and sticking to them with integrity. I have cheated on myself many times but I am still together and going strong. Integrity is difficult because it requires more than self-policing. It is about permanent internal change and evolution.

DAY ONE
Any wedding is just "day one" of your marriage and everyone else in your life becomes someone with whom you also choose to be involved. If you are already married or are thinking of marrying another person in the traditional sense, then they become the lover and life partner of a person who is clear about their needs. This frees your relationships with other people from neediness. You have to be truthful with yourself first. I'm also convinced that it eventually relieves stress and is therefore good for your skin.

Ready?

One last note -
I would like to thank Rob Brezsny for the initial inspiration many years ago. I have since read many other people's accounts and testimonies for "self-weddings", but his voice rings in my head whenever I share this strange gift with others. His book Pronoia is the Antidote for Paranoia is an uplifting read that I highly recommend. It's geared toward intelligent, witty people, or anyone ready to crack open their skulls to increase oxygen flow. It just continues his tradition of clever and insightful writings, typical of his many articles, other books, and his acclaimed, weekly astrology site (hilariously good advice whether you "believe" or not). And just to goo some more over him, I'm lovin' his podcasts.

Video Credits:
Shot by Mitchell V. Reichler
Starring Christian Blood, Drew Feuer, and Nicole Blackman
Encouraging Priestess - L. Gabrielle Penabaz
Special thanks to Paige (House of Collection) for letting us use her loft.